Are you a Narcissist?

Are you struggling with the fact that you might be a narcissist? Do you see these traits in your relationships and daily life?

• passive-aggressive behavior

• lack of empathy

• elevated sense of entitlement

• highly sensitive

• victim mentality

• high sense of self-importance

• manipulation

• intense need for attention

• arrogance

• grandiosity

• exploitative

These are just some of the traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and they can fluctuate whether you present as overt or covert. If you continually experience relationship dynamics where you are abusive to your partner, tear them down without even realizing or caring, focus primarily on your own needs above all others, then you might be clinically narcissistic.

Does that mean you are a lost cause? No.

The psychological community does not give much hope to those who suffer from NPD and the world sees them as enemies. However, I think we need to take a look at this stance and see how useful it is. The reason someone became this way is usually a painful story beyond most people’s comprehension. Does this excuse their abusive behavior? No. Can they seek help and truly heal and pursue real change? Possibly.

Working with a person with NPD is challenging, but not impossible. It can take a long time to be able to build trust enough to allow the individual to take off their masks, lower their defenses, and see themselves in the mirror; their true selves. Sometimes this happens in phases because it is too painful to allow the truth to the surface. Low and slow is the best strategy for someone who has suffered immense trauma. I believe it is possible for someone with NPD to change, and am absolutely willing and wanting to work with this population.

If this is you, please reach out for a consultation.